It feels great to be needed, to be the one people turn to for advice and decisions, and to be the one who is always "cool as a cucumber". I know I'm that person to some people. My husband looks to me often to make the decisions, to be calm and comforting, to be the rational one.

But there are times when I don't want to be that person, when I want someone else to take on the burden of command. There are times when the burden is too much and the emotional eruption is inevitable. These moments are few and far between. And when they happen, they don't last long. My virgo self yells at me, "buck up, princess, shit happens! Time to take control." And then the mood passes and I find my strength to keep calm and carry on.